Sensitives and Tolerations: An Unpleasant Mix

Posted on February 16th, 2010 by Sarah Dolliver in Introvert and HSP Insights

Over the weekend, I took time to work on those many things that piled up during the week: laundry, mending, house cleaning, and the rest of all that kind of stuff. I could have just as easily decided to go out and play in the unusually warm weather we’re having. Yet, I knew what would happen this week if I did. I would have been miserable trying to catch up on everything.

Why? Because being highly sensitive, I take in so much more stimuli than other people who are not like me. That makes my environments so important. I want them to be pleasing and soothe me. Anything else quickly turns into a toleration.

Tolerations are all those things that chew up your energy and take up space in your mind. You know the kind of things, like:

  • Your browser that locks up when you are trying to get something on the web
  • The bathtub drain that goes too slow
  • Listening to others’ gossip
  • Dissatisfaction with your own appearance
  • The leak in the irrigation system
  • Overflowing closets, cupboards or drawers
  • The boss’s nagging you to finish your part of her pet project

Can you feel the energy drain just thinking about having these things in your life? Without those tolerations, you have that energy and space to do other things you’d rather do.

Here are some reasons tolerations are so important for highly sensitive people (HSPs):

  1. We are sensors, so we take in more information to process. Tolerations cause us to take in what isn’t best for us.
  2. We are more sensitive to our environment that others. Therefore, even small things that are not ideal for us can cause an upset.
  3. We tend to carry thoughts and feelings around with us and not express them. So carrying tolerations adds an extra burden.
  4. Interference from events, people or situations that are not ideal can make it harder to listen to your own inner guidance, which tells you what’s good for you.
  5. We are not naturally high-energy people. So using energy for something that is not necessary or beneficial just doesn’t make sense.

Do you want to find out how to handle tolerations better? To learn why you carry tolerations and what you can do to live without them FOREVER? Yes, it is possible. All the details are here for Eliminating Tolerations

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2 Responses to “Sensitives and Tolerations: An Unpleasant Mix”

  1. Anonymous, on May 2nd, 2010 at 9:34 pm Said:

    Great site. A lot of useful information here. I’m sending it to some friends!

  2. Sarah Dolliver, on May 3rd, 2010 at 8:09 am Said:

    Many thanks for your appreciation and support!

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